How will you choose when you meet a person who is more suitable to you?



拥有一段稳定的伴侣关系，却又发现了更适合自己的，这是我们的两性关系经常要面临的一个挑战。这其中，最困难的是更适合的伴侣出现之后——对更好的一款汽车或一栋大房子，我们基本上总是因为选择“更好的”而兴奋和满足；而两性关系中，对于“更好的”，选择总是更复杂，结果也总是更复杂。

案例：

33岁的女记者马丽，陷入一场情感困局——在还算美满的婚姻之外，遇到一个她认为与自己的灵魂更匹配的人。

马丽想起刚入行时，一位老记者说，女记者关系容易破裂，因为天天采访成功人士，都比自己的老公优秀，自己的老公很难再保持吸引力。马丽后来了解到，这位前辈离婚两次，原因都是出现了“更适合”自己的伴侣。马丽很困扰：如果遇见了更好的，为什么又分开呢？

“自由选择”是当代的金科玉律，适用于挑选学校、恋人、新鞋子甚至这世上的一切东西。但是太多的选择非但没能给我们自由，反成一种禁锢。为何多即是少？在更多选择面前，你会如何决策？

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I don't choose if I meet a person who is more suitable to me if I married.

the person who is more suitable to me we can admire him but don't marry him.

we should be responsible for ourselves. life is reality. we can imagine but can not fulfill.

It is you think that he is more suitable, but actually, it is hardly true after you marry him. After married, we have not only love, but also resiponsibility to the whole family, baby is an important factor that I won't choose divorce and marry again, expcept that there is no love with my husband at all.

Sometimes, love him but not marry is a better choice. Keep the adoration inside, you will find it is beautiful memory one day!

better done than talk,if you like him or her,you must do your dertermination to contact with him.

若能幸福,会选择后者.

但一切在"若",天知道会怎样.

I don't think I can meet a man who was right for me.

I will choose my own husband!

Better choices will appear anytime and anywhere no matter they are matters or person.it's wrong to change your first decision so easy when you meet a better one.think about your boyfriend or husband first.is his mistake to marry you?It's nothing to do with him.Then,think of yourself,after meeting your better man,are you sure you won't never meet next better man?so.

for this topic, i don't know how i can answer correctly. i had thought about this thing years ago. if the ideal wife appear in my life after i get married with a woman, how do i. the infuture wife has been formed in my mind when i just know hazy love as young boy. i unfound the ideal wife until i got married.

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I can choose who I have already chosen .

I will choose the person who i loved and he love me too.

I think there are no perfectly things in the world. If I choose a person, I will stay with him for ever.

i am verysteadfast

As long as have chosen, I will not give up easily, suitable for may not only one or two people, but the choice must adhere to and responsible for it.

Already chose I will not give up easily, I will insist for mine choice andresponsible for it.

i think if you really love your husband ,no matter how he better , you will never leave your husband alone. Maybe he is perfect, maybe he is a good man ,even maybe he is your best choice,but everything is empty if he doesn't love you . Another thing ,when you are friend, he show his good manner to you ,but nobody is perfect in this world,you may compare he with your first husband,then you may repentant^

i don knowhow to answerlike this quester

Any person who is more suitable to you don't mean forever...maybe today you think she/her is suitable to you...it is possible to be not suitable to you yesterday. So the best choose of you is just loyal to your present partner.

Sorry, yesterday should be changed into tomorrow.