10 Things People Who Grew Up With a Single Parent Understand
In recent times, the numbers of single parent home keep soaring. It is tough and intense living in the home where a single parent rules. In some ways it makes you stronger and more prepared for your adult life. This is why such situations can remain memorable and indelible with us forever. Here are some things persons who grew up with single parents understand so well.
最近，单亲家庭数量持续猛增。生活在单亲父母管理的家里很艰难很有压力。但从某种意义上来说，这会让你变得更坚强，为成人生活做好更充分的准备。这就是为什么这样的情况值得永远铭记。这有些单亲家庭成长的人需要好好明白的事情。
1. You do not have any middle ground
你没有任何中间立场
You are not appeasing two sides to gain advantage and skimming something out to get a deal. You are stuck with one angle, one dimension, and one deal only. And that deal is handed by a single parent. You can’t hide behind the, “But I asked Dad and he said…” excuse when you are in a single parent home.
你不能安抚双方来获得好处，也不能隐瞒一些事来做个交易。你只是被困于一个角度、一个范围和一个交易。而且那个交易是由单亲父母所掌控的。当你生活在单亲家庭时，你不能找“但是我问过爸爸，他说...”这样的借口。
2. You have to learn fast
你必须快速学习
There is no room to be pampered or spoon-fed. You have to understand and quickly adapt to your responsibilities in the house, whether you are the middle child, first, or the last child. Every member of the family has their own unique role in the family that could include more responsibilities.
没有专为你准备或纵容你的房间。你必须明白并快速适应你在这个家的责任，不管你是中间的、第一个或最后一个孩子。家庭的每一个成员在这个家庭都有自己独特的角色，这会包括更多的责任。
3. You simply have to be responsible
你必须承担责任
Yes…if you wanted to you could do a lot of things to bother your parent. But you understand that there is so much on his/her table that you have to learn to appease and act responsibly instead.
是的...如果你想的话你可以做很多事情来打扰你的父母。但你明白他/她有太多事要做，你必须安抚父母、负责的做事情。
4. You don’t have too many options
你没有太多的选择
A single parent is a single parent. There is no good cop and bad cop in between. You have to deal with what you have and complain less. If your mom says “no”, her ruling is most likely to be final.
单亲父母就是单亲父母。这中间没有缓冲地带。你必须不发牢骚地应付你的事情。如果你的妈妈说“不”，这很可能就是最后结果。
5. You have income to keep the family going
你要赚钱养家
There is nothing to make any financial balance or to support the income of your single parent. To keep the family going, you have to adjust and know that the money is coming only from one source.
保持收支平衡或帮助你的单亲父母赚钱理所应当。为了让家庭过下去，你必须适应和知道家里只有一个收入来源。
6. You have to be concerned about their emotional stability
你必须关心他们的情绪的稳定
It is not about you who are around her. It is tough to handle things emotionally as a single parent. You have to know this and give them the opportunity to enjoy a piece of their life without you.
这不关在她周围的你的事。做为一个单亲父母很难处理感情上的事。你必须知道这个并给他们一点儿没有你的生活的机会。
7. You end up feeling proud
你最终会感到骄傲
After growing up with a single parent, you feel proud of the dynamic you have accomplished. Your achievements are shared because the hours you put in as a family are significant. Every celebration is that much more enjoyable after you grow up and look back on both your own and your parent’s accomplishments.
被单亲父母抚养长大后，你会为自己完成的事感到骄傲。你的成就会被分享，因为你投入到家庭的时间很重要。当你长大后回顾自己和你的单亲父母的成就，每一次的庆祝都会更加愉快。
8. You have to be thankful
你必须学会感恩
When you see the sacrifice your single parent is making, it means you have to show appreciation and acknowledge the effort they put in with you every single day. A little bit of thanks goes a long way.
当你看到你的单亲父母做出的牺牲时，这意味着你必须要对每一天他们为你投入的努力展现出感激和答谢之情。小小的感谢会很有用。
9. You are mocked for having a single parent
你会因为单亲而被嘲笑
Somehow the news get to fly that you have a single parent, perhaps during those school events when only your dad or your mom showed up. Since the world knows you to have a single parent, it is possible that you were targeted for being different.
你是单亲孩子的消息不知怎的就会传散开来，可能是由于在那些学校活动中只有你的爸爸或妈妈参加。既然大家都知道你只有单亲父母，你很可能成为被区别对待的目标。
10. You are part of the decision making process
你是参与决策过程的一部分
Somehow, you become involved in the way the home is run. You are quickly engaged in the important decisions of the day-to-day running of the house. In addition, you may even be asked for decorating advice!
不知怎的，你就会被卷入家庭的经营中。你很快就要着手家庭日常经营的重要决定。除此之外，你甚至可能需要在家庭装修上给出建议！
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